Learn to be Happy

It is such a pleasure to be with someone who is genuinely happy in themselves, someone who hasn’t got the weight of the world on their shoulders and who appreciates being with you.

Seven ways to learn to be happy

• Change the way you react to circumstances
• Recognise and change your destructive behaviour
• Think happy
• Eliminate approval seeking and jealous feelings
• Accept and make the most of what you have
• Make time for yourself
• Enjoy now

Change the way you react to circumstances

Being happy has a lot to do with the way we react to circumstances. One man’s disaster could be another man’s road to success. For example, someone, on hearing that they were jobless, might collapse into despair. Someone else given the same circumstances might decide that fate was giving them the greatest opportunity of their life. They might investigate the possibilities of a new career and begin training for an even better job than before; they might even move to a completely new area to give themselves a fresh start. React positively with an open mind to a challenge and give yourself the chance of success.

Every cloud has a silver lining!

Recognise and change your destructive behaviour

Being happy can be the most difficult achievement in life. Many of us feel uncomfortable and off-balance when life is going well for us. Many a relationship is unwittingly sabotaged by one partner, because they only feel at ease with failure and with being a victim. If you recognise yourself here, make time to think about your problem and how you can change yourself. You may decide to seek help in order to find out why you behave the way you do, but in the end it is up to you.

If you really want to be happy, then tell yourself right now that you are going to be happy and that you will not let any destructive element in you get in the way. Make a concentrated effort to recognise your destructive behaviour and really determine to stop it. In fact you need a lot of determination to be happy, and to challenge and get rid of every unhappy thought that enters your mind.

Think happy

It is within your capability to be happy. You can do what you want to do, go where you want to go, see who and what you want to see, so empower yourself by making these choices for yourself. The road to happiness can start as simply as spending time with happy, sociable people and thought-blocking any thoughts of sadness and negativity.

Eliminate approval seeking and jealous feelings

Happy people do not need to seek the approval of others to give them a sense of value, because they have self esteem and are secure in themselves. Jealousy is insecurity in us, a feeling that we are worth a lesser amount of love than others. It is a put-down of ourselves; it is a lack of trust in ourselves and the other person, and can never bring happiness. Love yourself enough not to let someone else’s behaviour cause you emotional discomfort.

Accept and make the most of what you have

A happy person makes the most of what they have got, and will be happy with their lot. Try to recognise that the world and the people in it are not perfect, and that you can’t change that fact. If you can accept the way things are, instead of the way you think things should be, and enjoy every precious present moment you have you will find a tremendous weight is lifted off your shoulders. People will be attracted to your light, and you’ll find being happy inside is possibly the best chat-up technique you could ever acquire!