Is my girlfriend stringing me along?

Dear Hillie

My girlfriend and I have been together for four years.  We’ve had relationship problems for a while and in December she went to an office party and kissed a guy she said she found attractive. I didn’t find out at the time although I felt strongly that something had happened. Things came to a head and we split up a couple of weeks after and she moved back to her mums. Over Christmas she kissed this guy again. About three weeks ago she asked if we could get back together and I reluctantly agreed to try again. The trouble is that I found out about this guy after she moved back in with me and it’s really getting to me. Now he’s asked her out to the cinema and she accepted the invitation. She is adamant that they are just friends. She’s also going away to a party with him and some other work mates at the end of the month. I’ve told her I don’t feel comfortable with any of this but she is still going. Am I being stupid? I feel like she’s stringing me along and I need some space, but I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Can you help?

Hillie says:

Always trust your own instincts and you won’t go far wrong. If you and your girlfriend are a couple why aren’t you included on these outings? Also if she really cared for you she wouldn’t want to hurt your feelings by doing anything you feel uncomfortable with. Ask her to leave as soon as possible and be thankful that you’ve had a lucky escape! 

Comments (2)

What a great resource!

Sam  April 4th, 2010 at 3:14 PM

Thank you.
Best wishes

hilliemarshall  May 16th, 2010 at 7:46 PM

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