Keeping the spark in your relationship

Dear Hillie

I have been living with my boyfriend for a year now and we love each other dearly. However I am worried because I want to keep the spark in our relationship and I sometimes see it fading. Do you have any suggestions on new things we could do? I realise that after being together for some time you have to expect this in a relationship, but I don’t want either of us to become bored and take it out on each other. Any ideas?

Hillie says:

It is often said that love makes the world go round but it is equally true that romance lubricates the cogs of the wheels. Romance is any little deed or experience that makes you both feel warm and good about each other. Surprise your boyfriend with a romantic candlelit dinner for two, cook his favourite food and play some mood music. Light your bedroom with candles and make love by candlelight. Give him a surprise call at work just to tell him you love him. Give him a small gift for no reason at all. Make sure you do something different together each week.

Plan surprise outings, go to see a new film, musical, play, opera, ballet or concert. Plan the occasional weekend or holiday away and discover new places together. Host dinner parties for friends, do sporting activities together, go for walks. Always make sure you keep abreast of the news so you have interesting things to talk about together. Always keep an element of surprise and romance in your relationship, never take each other for granted and you won’t go far wrong.

Comments (1)

It is useful to try everything in practice anyway and I like that here it’s always possible to find something new. 🙂

Antoine Evans  February 21st, 2010 at 4:51 PM

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